Love is hard to find and even harder to keep alive. As a Feng Shui Master, I have come across many Feng Shui design faux pas concerning relationships.

Basically, there are three major Feng Shui keys in finding that special someone and holding on to them.

The First Key is to make sure you are getting a good night's sleep. After all, if we are exhausted, the last thing we want to do is meet people or have sex. So what?s behind a good night's sleep? Let's begin with bed placement. Our beds should be placed in a commanding position to the doorway and placed on the North wall. This will promote relaxation and effective sleep. It is also important that a headboard supports our head and the bed be placed against a wall as opposed to floating in the room or up against a window. Also, watch out for too many plants, mirrors or water fountains in the bedroom. Suffice to say, these items do better elsewhere..

Let's not forget about the bombardment of EMF's (electromagnetic frequencies) that are in our bedrooms. Yes, this means you should throw the digital alarm clock out the window, place the computer in the office, and at least put the TV behind cabinet doors. When electrical appliances are turned on, they emit EMF's from an AC current. Our bodies react to this like a bolt of lightening because we operate on a DC current. Needless to say, you can throw out the idea of a restful sleep with these EMF's lurking in the mist. Finally, let's talk about room direction and placement according to the Feng Shui map, the Bagua. Why not choose your bedroom to be placed in the most romantic direction of all! The Southwest direction exudes a sense of romance and relaxation. Now combine that with placing this room in the romance and partnership section of the bagua and you have a wonderful formula for love.

The main door also plays a vital role in Feng Shui. If wealth luck has been less than desirable lately, check is there is any offending man-made strucure that is sending out harmful poison arrows towards your main door.

According to the 8 Life Aspirations, wealth and prosperity are governed by the Southeast direction. The element of Southeast is Wood and the color is green. Woodis produced by Water is destroyed by metal. Avoid having any major Metal or Fire element in this section of your home or office.

The kitchen stove, also known as the 'fire mouth' should be properly positioned as it is an important factor in Feng Shui. The stove should face the household breadwinner's 'sheng chi'.

If you are wondering why many offices and homes have large aquariums with beautiful fish, here's the answer : Water. A little bit of water feature in the Southeast section helps the growth of the natural Wood element. However, do not overdo it. A nice aquarium of pond with some fish will enhance the look and feel of your household. Balance is vital.

Colors are also beneficial in attracting good 'chi'. In the Southeast section of your home or office, display some items colored in green. You can also paint the wall in green or hang some gree colored curtains or drapes, as long as it does not seem odd and out of place there.

The Second Key to a successful relationship is symbolism. By and large, we know exactly what we want in life through the symbolism, or lack of symbolism, displayed in our spaces. In other words, the artwork, color and grouping of objects in our homes speak volumes as to what we want in life. What are you telling the universe you want out of a relationship? It's that far right corner of the room that should exude romance, sensuality and duality. So clear out the clutter, single objects, family photos, or that chest from Aunt Dolly and replace it with some romantic images. Remember, how you set up the furniture in your room counts too. One nightstand and a bed against the wall suggests there is only room for one!

The Third and Final Feng Shui Key to a successful relationship is a combination of color, lighting and scents. If you plan on ever having sex again, do not paint your bedroom lavender. This chaste energy is best to be left for a meditation or pooja room. Blue, yellow, brown and bright red are also problematic colors for the adult bedroom. Think romance colors when it comes to painting your bedroom and feel the sensuality explode from the walls. But don't stop there! Let's continue that color scheme right to the bed linens too and pick out some soothing fabrics like cotton, silks, satin and chenille. Spray your linens with some romantic aromas like Jasmine and ignite your inner passions. Top it off with some candles for soft lightening and you are ready for a long life of romance and passion.

Now, this wouldn't be a complete Feng Shui article without giving some quick remedies for other relationship issues. If what troubles you is finding that Mr. or Mrs. Right, then enhance your space with some Western energy by placing two roses along with a written list of the qualities you are looking for in a mate and place in the Western part of your bedroom at mid-wall level.

Perhaps you feel your relationship is rather superficial. Sounds like you need to make some decisions here, so activate the Northwest sector of your bedroom by placing a metal clock there and sleep with your head facing Northwest. Or maybe the only thing you and your partner have in common is arguing. You need to create a more relaxing yin environment by using pale greens, blues, creams and other pastels along with natural materials like wicker and wood.

Finally, let's not forget the partner with cold feet. You need to expose the future Mr. or Mrs. to more Northwestern energy so a decision can be made. Yes, make sure their head is facing in this direction when they sleep and go ahead and place metal objects or round and oval shapes in this direction of the bedroom. Cheers to a wonderful and romantic relationship